Life & Stuff IV: A Year of Separation

On September 13, I’ll reach a year of separation from my wife. I hinted at this in the original installment of Life & Stuff a year ago. A year later, it’s a bit easier to accept, a bit easier to deal with, but sometimes I still wish everything would go back to the way it used to be. Less each day though, and that’s probably a good thing. Maybe that’s the way these things go as I doubt I’m the only one who feels like this. Regardless, I can write about it now, and I’ve shared two poems I wrote within those first few weeks to try to help me deal with the situation, After All These Years and Already on the Moon. I don’t know how much writing helped me, but maybe reading them can help some of you.

With Virginia being a commonwealth, the laws are a bit different. Then again, Virginia’s a strange beast among her fellow commonwealths. Now that a year has gone by, we can finally file for our divorce, and I can proceed on the path of putting my life back in order. That’ll be another installment for another day. I don’t know why I’m writing, or if anyone will care. It feels good to do it. If you’re going through the same thing, you aren’t alone in your plight. If you’ve been through it, you know there’s another place on the other side, and hopefully it’s better. The healing process isn’t easy, fun, or short, but in the immortal words of the Grateful Dead, “I will get by/We will get by.”

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